Happy and Kind People

“There are two types of people. Those who come into a room and say, ‘Well, here I am,’ and those who come in and say, ‘Ah, there you are.’”  —Frederick Collins

I’m ashamed to say it but for many years I would come home from work and walk into my home with the “well, here I am” attitude. Of course I would have never said those words but, sadly, that was the vibe. Thankfully, I have changed, and I now work hard to show kindness and warmth in greeting others.

I just returned from a spectacular 9 day trip to the Piemonte region of Italy. The landscape, the wine, the food, the people, the lifestyle — everything was simply spellbinding. This was my first time to Italy and I fell in love with this beautiful country.

When you travel to a foreign country it does have its challenges. I didn’t speak the language. It was difficult to understand the road signs and how to pay for self-service petrol. Something as simple as ordering a meal was challenging too when you don’t know Italian.(more photos from Italy below the fold)

City square in Acqui Terme

City square in AcquiTerme

However, each person I encountered while traveling in Italy showed warmth and kindness. I was reminded of how good and beautiful people are. When we watch the nightly news our outlook can become jaded as we hear frightening stories of horrible human behavior. That is not the majority behavior of humanity.

The warmth and kindness I experienced with the Italian people was uplifting. Whether it was greetings on the street or getting help with directions, menus and parking tickets, I returned home graced with the spirit of la dolce vita (the beautiful life) and am reminded of the joy that comes from relationships and interactions with others. I’m reminded that to create joyful surroundings you have to bring joy yourself and to have friends you have to first be a friend to others.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” Dale Carnegie

Be conscious and intentional as you interact with others today. Enjoy the impact you’ll have with each person you encounter, whether a friend or stranger, as you initiate a kind “there you are” quality to your connections with others.

I invite you to share a comment below.

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3 Responses to Happy and Kind People

  1. Earney November 12, 2013 at 12:04 am #

    Hey Ron,
    I’m enjoying your posts. I started a truth seeking journey at the end of 2011 in the midst of trying to deal with some difficulties my daughter is going thru. I started trying to make sense of christianity studying doctrines that always troubled me, went on to studying the history of the church and grappled with trying to reconcile the new testament with the old as well as what to make of the many contradictions. I explored books by Hitchens, Harris and Dawkins. I studied all the eastern religions and philosophies. Books like ‘The Age of Reason’, ‘The Power of Now’, and ‘A New Earth’ and movies like ‘What The Bleep’, ‘Three Magic Words’, and ‘Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life’ played a big part in a shift in my thinking. The grip fundamentalism had on me all those years was gone. I quit church a couple of years ago in the middle of this life changing quest. It has been somewhat lonely but so liberating. I had been discussing these things with my dad and he died unexpectedly two weeks ago. All my life I have been driven and have become successful financially(no debts whatsoever with savings, realestate and businesses completely paid for). The things you have decided to talk about in your blog has hit a chord in me and I’m sure it will in many others. The ‘stuff’ don’t mean anything any more. It is about peace of mind and relationships and enjoying each moment we are given in this life. I guess I decided to write this note to encourage you to keep doing this. It is something that really matters. Take care and let me know if there is anything I can help with. Earney Walker

    • Ron Clendenin November 28, 2013 at 12:24 pm #

      Thank you for reaching out and for your kind words and encouragement!
      My heart is warmed by the truth-seeking journey you are own. I applaud you for seeking out answers and educating yourself
      by reading some of the brightest minds and deepest thinkers of our age. I’ve been influenced profoundly by them as well.
      You are not alone and I completely relate. But it sure can feel lonely when your world view is unlike most others around you.

      I hope all is well with your daughter and I’m so sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your dad. I know you must take some comfort in having been able to discuss openly such profound ideas with him and that he got to know your inner world.

      Thanks for sharing here on my blog. I admire your journey and your painstaking efforts to be liberated!

  2. Montana Happy April 11, 2016 at 4:02 pm #

    Thoughtful post. I also feel that when you simplify, you end up with more time to pay attention to other people. Now that I’m simplifying my life one week at a time, I have more time and I’m paying more attention to the people that surround me.

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