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How To Forgive Dad

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” 

—Mahatma Gandhi 

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I was estranged from my father all of my childhood and most of my adult life. We all experience rejection throughout our lives but being disavowed by your father can do a number on your psyche during your childhood and adolescent years.

I was his first born child and carried both his first and last name but he never visited me or called. He was a no show for all of my birthdays and to watch me play sports. He failed to attend my graduation from high school and college. He did not celebrate my wedding nor the birth of his grand daughter. He was a deadbeat dad that never sent a single child support payment.

When I was 35 years old I made the pilgrimage from Charlotte to Wilmington to face my dysfunctional past with a parent who couldn’t care less about me. I named my trip to see him “the forgiveness tour” but it was more complicated than just being about forgiveness. I hoped for a face to face conversation that would address my scarred internal world that left me feeling unwanted. I hoped for a confrontation with him that might silence my unabating question of, “Why am I an unwanted son?”

Forgiveness. It’s fragile, and it’s complicated. Continue Reading →

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31 Ways To Be Happy With Yourself Instantly

how to be happyOnce I began to really pay attention to my incessant thoughts, I realized how many of my waking hours I spent beating myself down.

Instead of bringing more compassion and love into the world and to myself, I was mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted from my negative over-thinking. But it had become a habit, and the more I practiced over-thinking, the more ingrained the habit became.

Over-thinking, negative thought patterns, and excessive worry can lead to feelings of low self-esteem and low self-confidence. And excessive worry and negativity can lead to anxiety and depression.

Is it possible to unhook from these looping negative thoughts and be in sync with the goodness of our own being? Can we disengage and reclaim our thoughts and our emotional well-being?

Yes it is possible!

It is not only possible, but it’s essential for simple happiness.

Our well-being and happiness hinge on our ability to live in the present moment, drawing energy and joy from the deep reservoir within, as well as from our outward actions and choices.

Self-awareness is always the first step toward change. So we should regularly seek an exit ramp off the freeway of our frenzied busy-mindedness and negative thought patterns.

The best way to break the habit of negative thought patterns is simply through awareness and interruption. Once you catch yourself in a loop of over-thinking, you must do something to break the cycle. Behind interruption, you can take simple life actions in your daily life to take your mind off of negative thoughts and begin to feel happier in general.

Here are 31 simple life immediate actions you can take to interrupt your patterned thinking and feel happier: Continue Reading →

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